An incomprehensive list of qualities I look for in the human beings with whom I surround myself, in no particular order:
- Encourage me to shine—to manifest my dreams, to breathe in every moment of joy and accept that with bliss there also comes struggle and conflict.
- Challenge me to be better—to expand, to elevate, to move into higher ways of being.
- Make me laugh. Laugh at my jokes, too.
- Remind me that lightness and frivolity are always available to me.
- Be radically honest.
- Practice authenticity.
- Bury a body with me—no questions asked. (Maybe even do the murder with me, who knows?)
Despite how we may have been conditioned, we’re not actually forced to engage with or required to have relationships with ANYONE—all of that is a choice. We aren’t obligated to surround ourselves with people who don’t support our magic or who steal from our joy.
Every day we choose who will influence our energy and whether or not we will allow someone to occupy our mental, emotional, and physical spaces. There is no such thing as obligatory connections—all of these are choices, even when they’re tough ones.
One of our highest responsibilities to ourselves is curating relationships that align with our value system and our energy. We need all different kinds of people in our collective because none among us does this alone—but we get to choose those people.
Choosing is an autonomous act that reminds us that we are responsible for our own experience of life. What qualities do you look for in the people you choose? Who are you choosing now? Are your choices aligned?