14Aug
By: Neghar On: August 14, 2018 In: body image, Featured, Featured Posts, feminism, Mindset Comments: 0

Like many young girls, I wasn’t nurtured with resilience against shame. I wasn’t directly and specifically nurtured towards shame by my parents, but when you come of age in a culture that is laced with shame around women’s bodies and sexuality in general, resilience is necessary if you are...

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17May
By: Neghar On: May 17, 2018 In: body image, heart wisdom, Mindfulness, Mindset Comments: 0

One of the most important roles you can play in your life is that of your own hype woman. You have to think you’re fabulous, even and especially when you’re knee deep in the messy stuff. You’ve got to give yourself compliments, recognize your inherent dopeness, and fireyourself up. You have to catch your reflection in...

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09May
By: Neghar On: May 09, 2018 In: body image, feminism, Mindset Comments: 0

When you consider that hustling to fit narrow, reductive, and arbitrary beauty standards is actually taking on the work of the oppressor, it becomes much easier to stand in your body with autonomy and power. Choosing to look however YOU want to look is an act of rebellion against a...

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10Feb
By: Neghar On: February 10, 2018 In: body image, feminism, heart wisdom Comments: 1

“Damn, your hair grows so fast,” he said. Close to 2 inches of silver this time. It’s been 7 weeks since my last visit. Orlando has been my colorist for the past few years. I first came to see him when I was dying my hair shades of purple,...

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12Jan
By: Neghar On: January 12, 2018 In: body image Comments: 3

Your bones. Your breath. Your body. Your business. Every inch from teeth to toenails—every wrinkle, every dimple, every curve, every scar, every detail—yours. Yours to live in with power. Yours to inhabit with love. Yours to adorn and express in any manner you deem necessary, in whichever way you desire....

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07Nov
By: Neghar On: November 07, 2017 In: body image, feminism, Fitness, Mindset Comments: 4

I never used to let myself get photographed from behind. As someone who grew up terribly self conscious about her legs, I’d worry about what people would think if they saw my dimpled thighs, self equating my (very natural) cellulite with words like “gross” and “flaw” because this is...

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04Nov
By: Neghar On: November 04, 2017 In: body image, Mindset Comments: 1

I stepped on the scale at the doctor’s office the other day—something I rarely do, as I’ve learned through years of healing not to define myself by the number on a scale. There was a period of time when I would remove every article of clothing, take a deep,...

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10Jun
By: Neghar On: June 10, 2017 In: body image, cardio, fat loss, Fitness, Lifestyle, Mindset, quickie Comments: 5

Confession: Sometimes I skip workouts. I love lifting and getting sweaty just as much as the next lady meathead, but sometimes I just really, really, really don’t want to go to the gym. We’ve all been there; even those among us who identify as gym-junkies and fitness fanatics have...

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16May
By: Neghar On: May 16, 2017 In: body image, Lifestyle, Mindset Comments: 3

It was my first professional photo shoot. I’d done some informal shooting for other people’s sites and projects, but I’d never done a shoot just for me and my work. The shoot took place in New York City at my friend Mark Fisher’s gym, just a few weeks before...

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10Apr
By: Neghar On: April 10, 2017 In: body image, fat loss, feminism, Fitness, heart wisdom, Mindset, Photography Comments: 6

Last week, during a fitness photoshoot, I intimated to my photographer and my assistant that I was the “heaviest” I’d ever been outside of my pregnancy. I put heaviest in quotations because I don’t actually weigh myself, and I think it’s just a placeholder for a variety of descriptions identifying an...

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