10Feb
By: Neghar On: February 10, 2018 In: body image, feminism, heart wisdom Comments: 1

“Damn, your hair grows so fast,” he said. Close to 2 inches of silver this time. It’s been 7 weeks since my last visit. Orlando has been my colorist for the past few years. I first came to see him when I was dying my hair shades of purple,...

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01Feb
By: Neghar On: February 01, 2018 In: heart wisdom Comments: 0

When you’ve become accustomed to love feeling like loneliness—to crying into your pillow each night despite the warm body lying next to you—experiencing true connection can be unsettling, at first. You’ve bled yourself dry and forgotten how to receive; you’ve become so unfortunately familiar with misery that happiness seems...

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10Dec
By: Neghar On: December 10, 2017 In: heart wisdom, Mindfulness, Mindset Comments: 0

Words. And the spaces between them. Nature. Her lessons in letting go. The way she has the power to change your entire state of mind with just a sunset, an autumn breeze, a crash of a wave. Clarity. When you call upon your intuition to help guide you and...

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27Nov
By: Neghar On: November 27, 2017 In: heart wisdom, Mindfulness, Mindset Comments: 2

From 2003-2005 I had approximately 3 CDs in the glove compartment of my Volkswagen Jetta. It was a time when cars still came factory equipped with CD players and tape decks. I was a 21 year old Air Force linguist in training, stationed at the Presidio of Monterey—300 miles away from the...

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13Oct
By: Neghar On: October 13, 2017 In: Family, heart wisdom, Lifestyle, Mindfulness, Mindset, Nature Comments: 1

A relentless trek of switchback after switchback, the Four Mile Trail from Yosemite Valley to Glacier point isn’t actually 4 miles at all—it’s 4.6 miles to the summit…and another 4.6 miles back down to the valley, climbing 3200 feet along the way. My 11-year old, Isaac, asked me how long...

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11Oct
By: Neghar On: October 11, 2017 In: Family, heart wisdom, Mindfulness, Mindset Comments: 2

Isaac slid a note under my office door. It was around 6:30 am, and he knew he I was likely in the thick of my morning magic rituals. Inherently and thoughtfully seeking not to disturb me during this sacred time is one of the many qualities I admire about my 11-year-old son. Earlier...

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25Sep
By: Neghar On: September 25, 2017 In: Family, feminism, heart wisdom, Mindset Comments: 2

There is something especially disturbing about the call for women to engage in self-care as a means of preparation for service towards others. We don’t feel especially comfortable giving women permission to put themselves first, so instead we often see the call to self care punctuated with statements such as,...

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18Sep
By: Neghar On: September 18, 2017 In: heart wisdom, Mindfulness, Mindset Comments: 1

 Breaking open and breaking apart, while they sound similar, are in fact two very different responses. You see, the struggles are necessary. The roadblocks, the hurdles, the obstacles—I mean, damn, we do have quite a few words to identify them, don’t we? Anyway, these challenges are what make us the multidimensional,...

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17Aug
By: Neghar On: August 17, 2017 In: heart wisdom, Mindfulness, Mindset Comments: 2

“Throw roses into the abyss and say: Here is my thanks to the monster who didn’t succeed in swallowing me alive.” -Friedrich Nietzsche No one really teaches us to be grateful for the beasts in our lives. The beauties, yes, indeed. The smiles, the laughs, the happy moments and...

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20Jul
By: Neghar On: July 20, 2017 In: heart wisdom, Lifestyle, Mindfulness, Mindset Comments: 3

My phone was dead. Again. I’d forgotten to bring my external charger which I’ve been lovingly and nostalgically referring to as my “land line.” My battery life is questionable at best, so that little charger usually goes with me everywhere, resulting in my cell always being plugged into something....

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